How does one get over a break up? Obviously ending a relationship hurts a lot. Before we discuss a lot, allow me to share a story with you how my friend ended her relationship with her boyfriend. Probably the cause of breaking up with your partner may not be same as that of my friend.
We get hurt so much by our feelings and if we are not able to overcome them, then they may end up driving us crazy. My pal ended her relationship with her partner on Valentine’s Day. Imagine you breaking up with your fiance on Valentine’s Day when you’re supposed to show affection for each other by exchanging gifts!
I recall how they started their love relationship. They started it off really fast. I wonder if it was love at first sight because they met at a party and fell in love with each other instantly. They were both peace lovers thus they rarely quarreled. But as days and months passed by, their love got lesser and lesser. They no longer had love feelings for each other. All the love, gifts for friends etc. disappeared.
During Valentine’s Day they decided to break up. I felt sorry for her when she broke the news to me. She told me that the main reason they made a decision to end their relationship was because of her boyfriend not loving her. She was weary loving and caring for somebody who did not love nor care for her.
Since then she promised to forget all about him but to my surprise this failed to turn out how she had thought it. Forgetting memories of her partner turned to be a nightmare. All she did whenever she had nothing to do was to think about the places they had visited, the romantic moments they had and the promises she had made to her boyfriend. On occasions she cried and if I happened to be with her then I had to comfort her.
I emphasized to her that they weren’t meant for each other and that she should carry on with life. Am happy that after sometime she managed to forget her ex and now she is looking forward to start another relationship with a man who truly loves her.
Below are four tips that will help you when you break up
1. You have to get rid of emotions in your heart. You’ve got to stop hurting yourself. Do not get hurt so much when you split up. The break up otherwise prevents future complications. It makes you to realise that he/she was not the right man/woman for you.
2. After splitting with your boyfriend or girlfriend don’t do something stupid. By this I mean don’t add another problem to an existing problem. Pain because of a break up is something that’s temporary and it is possible to get rid of it any time you decide to do so.
3.Forget your ex by doing things that keep you busy throughout. If you get yourself busy for several days after the break up, then it becomes easy for you to forget your ex unlike when you are not busy.
4. After the break up you need people to talk with. Talk with your friends and relatives to help you ease the pain. You’ll be much relieved when you share your problem with people who matter most to you.
Breaking up with your girlfriend or boyfriend does not imply you are failure or you cannot loved, it may mean that you have not found someone special meant for you only.
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